3 Ways to Help Our Kids and Ourselves Return Well to School

3 Ways to Help Our Kids and Ourselves Return Well to School

His eyes appeared crimson and glassy as my son stepped off the bus. It was his third day of First Grade at a new school and I asked him if he’d been crying. His response, “Mommy, I just got punched in the stomach by another kid.”

Silence was all I could offer as I noticed my heart sinking and my anger rising. All of the sudden that free, convenient golden transporter became a conduit of smashing my son’s spirits and another arena I couldn’t control.

What do you do when a grade, a kid, a girl, a rejection from a sports team, mean words, or anger-filled actions push their way into your child’s life crushing their spirit and making them feel alone?

How can they know who they are, hear words of encouragement, and not feel lonely in those scary moments?

How can you have peace as you release your child into a world filled with pain, disappointment, and darkness?Continue reading

A Vital Question to Answer

A Vital Question to Answer

Choices. A popular parenting technique in this day is to offer your child choices.  Do you want to get in the car by yourself or do you want mommy to help you? Do you want to do your homework after school or before bed? Do you want an apple or banana? Do you want to pay me back now or later? Do you want to take out the garbage or do the dishes? Do you want to pop the grapes in my mouth for me or give my feet a massage? 🙂

The choices are endless and offering them twelve hours a day gets exasperating. However the very nature of offering choices helps our children to make a decision rather than passively disengage.

I would argue that choices do the same for us as adults.Every little decision we make impacts the course of our path. Interestingly, God asks us to make choices because the choices we negate making alter the fulfillment of our destiny. God forces the issues because he knows the relational decay of passive disengagement.Continue reading

When you Forget your “Yes”

When you Forget your “Yes”

Have you ever said “yes” to something then completely forgot about it?

Recently, I was driving past my son’s school when I realized I had agreed to bring my friend’s precious first-born son home from school. The day school let out for winter break, was a half day and for the life of me, I could not remember following through with my commitment to bring him home on that day.

The devastation and terror I felt was unmatched. I was torn to pieces at the thought of letting my friend down so. I couldn’t believe I had forgotten something so, so important.

Immediately, I called to beg for her forgiveness and left a voice message since she was at work.  Later she called me and it took everything in me to answer the phone to discuss my failure.Continue reading